When we were young we couldn't wait to grow up, but growing up isn't always what it seems, with growing up comes responsibility, and no one every said it would be peachy. If they did they sure fooled the hell out of you! Again I say, it comes with responsibilities. At eighteen you are known as an adult, it will become a time when you will have to pay for your actions. Just because your parents raised you one way does not even mean you will choose that path. At twenty-one you will be allowed to drink as an adult, what you make of that, is what you choose to make of it. Like we said life is not always peachy.
After eighteen you are allowed to do a lot of different things, we have already mentioned the drinking thing. You graduate if you choose to, that is also your choice, this day and time not many kids do finish school but that is what they make of it. If you choose college, that is great, but not to sound negative, a lot of people who go to college wind up working the same minimum wage job as a people without the college degree. A college education does not promise you that life will be grand. See we are not promised things on a silver platter it's just some are lucky enough to be born into it (and it probably wasn't made honestly), you see life is not always peachy.
Then next comes another big challenge in you life, marriage, yikes scary thought. This is one decision you better be ready for. Many things can happen in this one, wow, how do we start on this one. First of all marriage cannot be one sided, first thing that needs to be done is to sit down the both of you and make a list of pro's and con's. Is it really love or infatuation? Just because one is smart and pretty or smart and handsome isn't grounds for marriage. Do you to really want to spend the rest of your days together, if you always argue now, will that be an everyday thing? The little irritants you dislike now, (but overlook), will not go away just because you get married and likely after time will become big irritants. Life is to short to be miserable all your days. Marriage is not always bliss. Will you be happy today and tomorrow wonder why in the hell you did this? Is your soon to be spouse committed more to their family than they will be to you? Marriage is not always peachy and it's hard no matter how committed you are.
The bible tells us this, EXODUS 20:12 Honor thy father and thy mother. Truly it says to honor thy father and mother, honor and respect, for they are the ones who brought you into this world. With saying that, you must ween yourself from your parents when you become one in marriage. Matthew 19: 4-6-4 And he answered and said unto them, Have ye not read, that he which made them at the beginning made them male and female, 5 And said, For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they twain shall be one flesh? 6 Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder. The parents take a back seat to thy spouse and if you can't do that your marriage is doomed before it starts and if you have feelings for another person, get it out before you say I do, it will save you in the end, because marriage ain't all peachy.
Young people before you do things, think about them before you leap, and especially having kids should not be rushed. Give yourselves time to get to know each other, believe it or not, being married to someone is different than just living together. Marriage is all good if you are meant for each other. Just because you live with someone for years does not mean marriage is right, especially if you fight and argue all the time. If you do, the two of you must get it under control before you say I do. Do it now, it will save a lot of sadness and heartache, and if you have any doubts don't do it. REALLY life and marriage is not always peachy.
Ephesians 5:33 - 33 Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife see that she reverence her husband.
These are God's instruction for marriage. Love, honor and obey, become one in thinking and actions. Love each other as Jesus loves you.
thanks again jesseb's
Shalom and Peace to Israel